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Boston

Currently booking my travels for the next two months, and I realized I can count the number of weeks I have left in Boston on one hand. Even though there might have been some things I wished I got more out of during the past 3 years, overall I would say I don't have any regrets with how I spent my time here given the experiences I was able to have. I honestly didn't think I would miss Boston at all, especially given my lack of community here. The closest thing I had to a community here was CG, but honestly I would be more fair to say that I went to Coolidge CG rather than say I was a part of Coolidge CG. Maybe it's just semantics, but I would say that most people there would view my participation in it similarly. From my POV, I consistently went when I was actually in Boston, but from other people's POV I objectively wasn't there a lot. Even when I felt more of a part of the community, I wasn't even included in the list of people that they split into separate CG...
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What are boundaries

One of my close friends in Boston’s ex that he just broke up with 3 weeks ago seems to have started dating another guy. A lot of issues stemmed from a 2.5 week trip she took with one of her guy friends, and saying that she didn’t like the concept of boundaries, but I just want to touch on some broader general thoughts here: 1. Similar with what happened between me and CPL (I asked her straight up if she thought I was selfish and controlling solely because I didn’t want her to meet up alone with her ex while were in a ldr, and she said yes), when people say they’re against boundaries because they don’t like feeling that they’re being controlled or restricted, there’s always some underlying reason. Not that it’s always necessarily nefarious, but the experiences and stories I’ve heard from when it has been used have generally been to absolve personal responsibility of questionable behavior. 2. It’s frustrating seeing how selfish and unafraid of hurting others people can be in these situat...
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Collection of thoughts

Processing thoughts has always been an unstructured, spontaneous exercise for me. This blog won’t be anything formal - more of a collection of random musings and processing of happenings, some of which might only be a couple of sentences. It’s not meant to be educational and any commentary isn’t meant to be taken that seriously. We’ll see where this leads to, but I think it’ll be helpful to journal and eventually reflect on where I was at at various points in my life. It’ll probably be chaotic, which is in line with the story of my life. Excited to see what comes of this!
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