What are boundaries

One of my close friends in Boston’s ex that he just broke up with 3 weeks ago seems to have started dating another guy. A lot of issues stemmed from a 2.5 week trip she took with one of her guy friends, and saying that she didn’t like the concept of boundaries, but I just want to touch on some broader general thoughts here:

1. Similar with what happened between me and CPL (I asked her straight up if she thought I was selfish and controlling solely because I didn’t want her to meet up alone with her ex while were in a ldr, and she said yes), when people say they’re against boundaries because they don’t like feeling that they’re being controlled or restricted, there’s always some underlying reason. Not that it’s always necessarily nefarious, but the experiences and stories I’ve heard from when it has been used have generally been to absolve personal responsibility of questionable behavior.

2. It’s frustrating seeing how selfish and unafraid of hurting others people can be in these situations. I can understand feeling vengeful in these situations, and I’m glad that I’m Christian because I could see a world where if I wasn’t, I wouldn’t be afraid to act on my impulses.

3. Similar to YFH’s situation at BLK, it feels like good people suffer a disproportionate percentage of the consequences, and ultimately become jaded. It’s tough to keep that light shining brightly when you’ve gone through these experiences, but that’s also partially the essence of Christianity - trusting in God’s plan for you, and maintaining our hope in Him.

I guess this post has started venturing into the wayside, but these are just some gathered thoughts been thrown together as my insomnia is keeping my mind active at 5am.

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